Feeling like you’re failing ? Join the club.
There’s something in the air because these past two weeks my friends and I have been feeling like we’re failing.Like we’re not where we want to be and comparing ourselves to other people. It feels like this year is going so fast and everybody has gone into panic mode about their life and their goals. But the truth is we have plenty of time to figure things out and we don’t need to compare ourselves to other people.Everyone is different and everyone gets to their path differently and it doesn’t make you any less successful. If you feel like your failing or not able to get where you want then you just need to re-charge. Your body is essentially a battery and sometimes its going to run out of steam so you just need to relax and recharge and start again.
Go back to basics!
Go back to the beginning. If you made a list at the start of the year go back to it. Sit down and be realistic about the goals you’ve written down. Pick ones that you know you can make happen and plan how you’re going to do it. If you haven’t got a list pick up that pen girl and write one. A list is the most basic way to get shit done! Write down what you want and make a list of how you’re going to get there and what you need to get there. Don’t set yourself unrealistic goals-focus on your passion and let that be your driving force. Sometimes going back to basics is all you need to put a little spring back into your step.
Grab a cocktail, your girls and talk it out!
Sometimes spending time with good friends over lunch and cocktails is the best therapy. Sometimes we need to be reminded that we’ve achieved so much in our life and remember that we aren’t failing. It’s easy to forget when your compare yourself to your friends and other people. But hearing someone say ‘Well I’m jealous that you get to go off and travel’. You may not be where you want to be in your career or own your own property but is that right for you right now!? Most of the time the answer is no because you have so much more that you need to do and learn before you get to that stage. So vent to your friends,family,partner and let it out! Once you get that off your chest then you can start to focus on improving whatever it is that’s getting you down and move on up.
Say yes and go for it!
It’s easy to get stuck in a rut and say you want to achieve something but never do the things you need to do to get there. Just start saying yes to things that you wouldn’t normally do. Run with your passion and take a course in that field or research it and see whether that’s something you could do. The easy road is easy for a reason and getting to your goal is hard but that’s what makes it worth it. Nothing good is ever easy and if you’re not happy you need to get out. That could be finding a new job or ending a toxic relationship because your happiness does affect your ability to say yes and go for it! Like I’m starting crossfit soon and I am so nervous but I’m passionate about my health and fitness. And its something new and exciting and I have no idea where it will lead. But I know I’m going to be doing something I enjoy, feeling fitter which in turn helps me mentally and emotionally. Which means I’m focused and happy which makes for a motivated Tadana.
Give yourself a break!
You are not Mother Theresa and you’re not going to change the world in a day and that’s ok! You’re human and we are not perfect and we do not need to be. So to hell with feeling like poo who needs it. Make sure at the end of the day you’re happy and hey sometimes that’s all you need.
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